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The Mindful Pause

Tara Brach speaks of creating a pause for us to check-in with our inner landscape before we utter those words in anger, shame or rejection.

In her book Radical Acceptance she reminds us that we can find space in the discomfort of distress. When someone attacks us verbally, we often snap back in an instant because we are wounded by their words, often triggered by an old feeling that has long created a core belief around being inadequate, unlovable, abandoned or just being a bad person.

Feelings of inadequacy float around most of us in one disguise or another.

I am not enough.

I am a bad mother/father.

I am not a good partner.

I am never going to be successful.

I am not a good friend.

Pause, breath and feel, the inner movements of your body, if that feeling could speak what would it say to you?

Learning the language of our inner landscape and cultivating mindful pauses can generate a passion for our own experience with an attitude of forgiveness and acceptance.

Even if you don’t believe in the power of the pause, just for one day, instead of responding to a comment or situation straight away, take a 5 second pause before you answer or respond unless this is of course and emergency and responding immediately is vital. Tune into your body and just pay silent attention to what comes up for you.

Pause, breath and feel.


RAIN by Tara Brach


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